The past couple of months I have been struggling with some medical scares and issues. It turns out it is nothing I can’t handle, but something has switched in my brain that has made me realise how important taking care of myself is.
I can’t speak for you, but my mind is my biggest challenge. I have struggled with my mind quite a bit over the past couple of years, and what baffles me the most is when I talk to different people about it, we are all on different levels struggling. Mental health affects us daily, whether we are aware of it or not and I wanted to discuss some ways I try to overcome those days I’m feeling exceptionally anxious or not myself, however, you wish to define it.
If you are not aware, I am not a doctor and speak from complete experience. Here are three tips that I have found help me when I’m having a particular naff day or feeling a little more anxious than usual.
Taking time for myself can be super beneficial. Doing something that takes my mind away from fretting thoughts and spending a moment just engulfed in something helps me personally. Making an evening to run a bath, wash my hair and go that extra mile in skin care routine, really does have its benefits. Not only am I grooming the outside, which in turn can make me feel cared for and pampered, but letting my mind settle while I focus on looking after myself can be mindful and for me helps break away from obsessive unproductive thought patterns.
▷Write It Down
Have you ever heard when you’re extraordinarily angry with somebody you should write it all down in a letter and never send it? No? Okay just me. Well… the same for me applies to my thoughts. If I’m struggling with processing my feelings or something is beginning to niggle a little too hard OR maybe I feel like crap and can’t understand why. I WRITE IT OUT (down lol). Seriously, writing down my thoughts in a little book is like therapy for me. I have done it since high school, and it helps me work through my mind and helps relax me when I can see it all on paper.
I am the worst at holding in all my thoughts and then employing when things get a little too hectic. Expressing how I feel to someone I trust is so effective in releasing stress. Sometimes I have legitimate reasons for feeling stressed, but others are situations I have built up in my head, and when I talk them out, I realise I might be overthinking situations creating unneeded stress for myself. My only caution with expressing my thoughts and worries is who it is I choose. I know the people in my life that give me constructive conversations and others than induce more stress, so pick someone carefully, as there’s no worse feeling than expressing your worries and they brush them away. They are important, even the “silly” things we think, I believe they still affect us the same.
If I have a big assignment for uni and spend a lot of my time indoors (lol who am I kidding I literally sit in bed, it’s my most productive space for some reason) I find I get a bit slobby and unmotivated. Taking myself out of the house, or any enclosed space, and spending time in fresh air helps me feel so much better when I feel in a mental funk. I’ll go for a walk, or if it’s a little too wet outside for such activity, I will take myself to a supermarket and buy fresh fruit and wander the aisles. It sounds so mundane and simple but honestly, it helps me relax so much, and I usually feel better when I return home.
If you have a self-care / tips for managing the mind, please feel free to share them in the comments. These tips won’t fix everyone and everything, but they may help you address your mind with the importance it deserves.